We are all different and yet, we are the same. We share this human experience. Our experiences are more alike than we realize, but how we interpret these experiences and what we choose to do with them varies greatly.
In my journey, I’ve had the privilege of working with incredible women, many of whom suffered from some form of depression and/or anxiety. An outsider would look at most of these women and say that their lives looked perfect; that they had it all. But that’s not how they felt. As I listened to many of my client’s stories, there was often a common theme: a sense powerlessness and a disconnection from their core selves. There were a variety of factors that contributed to these feelings: past trauma, desire to please others, a fear of rejection, concern about image, trying to keep up, not feeling good enough, taking on too much responsibility, fear of inadequacy, a sense of loneliness in the world, difficulty setting boundaries or asserting themselves, low self-esteem, feelings of unworthiness and dysfunctional, sometimes abusive, relationships. These were commonly shared experiences.
These feelings are not unique to my clients. In fact, they are not unique at all. My greatest hope is for people to know that they are not alone, and that it is often through suffering that we grow and increase our capacity to connect with others as well as ourselves. Despite our suffering over whatever is, we are not fundamentally flawed, but quite the opposite. We are beautiful beings worthy of love and respect. We are capable, knowledgeable and insightful. And, we have the capacity to heal.
This is why I write.
My new book, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?, will be published in March, 2018. You can pre-order now on Amazon.