Understanding Anxiety After Abuse: A Key Part of the Healing Journey

Anxiety is one of the most misunderstood parts of post-abuse recovery. Often mislabeled as overreacting or “being too sensitive,” anxiety is actually a survival response. If you’ve lived under the constant pressure of emotional manipulation or narcissistic rage, your body learned to be on alert—for your own safety.

Why Anxiety Is a Normal Response to Trauma

You may feel:

  • On edge, even in peaceful situations
  • Unable to relax or trust others
  • Overwhelmed by decisions or interactions

This is not you being broken—it’s your nervous system asking, “Are we safe yet?” Emotional health after abuse means teaching your body and mind that safety is possible again.

Spiritual Healing Through Anxiety

Anxiety can actually point to the parts of you that are still in need of healing. It’s a guide. It tells you where your wounds live. And when you treat anxiety not as the enemy but as a messenger, you allow space for mending.

Simple Practices to Help Ease Anxiety During Recovery

  • Breathwork or grounding techniques
  • Trauma-informed yoga or somatic therapy
  • Replacing anxious thoughts with affirmations of safety and self-trust

You are not weak because you’re anxious. You are strong because you’re healing. Keep going.

Avery Neal, PhD is a practicing psychotherapist, international author and speaker. In 2012 she opened Women’s Therapy Clinic, which offers psychiatric and counseling support to women. She specializes in depression and anxiety at all stages in a woman’s life.

Dr. Neal is the author of, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?: Recognizing and Overcoming Subtle Abuse, which has been translated and published in twelve languages. Her articles and interviews have been published by Oprah.com, American Counseling Association, Counseling Today, BookTrib, Best Self Magazine, Hitched Magazine, Bustle, POPSUGAR and PKWY Magazine, and her courses have been taken by over 18,000 people worldwide. The International Association of HealthCare Professionals nominated her as one of the top psychologists in Houston.

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